Hey, Look: A Kairos Moment at Killam’s Point Ecstatic Dance in Connecticut

At Killam’s Point in Connecticut, during a shoreline ecstatic dance with DJ Flavya, rhythms carried us on a journey of presence and feeling. the vibrations seemed to slow time itself, weaving us into a collective flow that held both stillness and movement.

I found myself in a Kairos moment like this by the rest tent — where movement, music, and community wove together into something unforgettable.

Some moments in life arrive like lightning bolts — clear, powerful, unforgettable. Others arrive like whispers, slow and spacious, carrying the kind of meaning you only notice when you pause long enough to feel it.

This is the story of one of those moments.

A few weeks ago, I invited my bestie, Missy, to join me at the Ecstatic Dance at Killam’s Point. I knew she’d be into it — and I was so excited when she said yes.

What I didn’t expect was the way she showed up. Not only did she come ready to move, she also brought gifts for the community — items to make the “rest tent” feel more like a sanctuary. I thought she might bring a few blankets. Instead, she pulled up with a carload of vibes and even two helpers to set it all up. She gave generously, with that steady, crafty energy she carries, and before I knew it, the tent was transformed.

Later that day, something happened that I’ll never forget.

We were moving freely together barefoot on the “dance floor" when time suddenly seemed to slow down. Missy turned to me, motioned toward the tent, and said simply:

“Hey, look.”

I followed her gaze thinking there was something wrong— and saw what she meant after witnessing: people resting, wrapped in the beauty we provided. The music of dj flavya, the movement, the stillness — it all felt suspended, like a Kairos moment. Not the clock kind of time, but the sacred time, where everything lines up and you know you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

It struck me that this was more than just a tent, or an ecstatic dance, or a single day. It was a manifestation of both of our personal healing journeys — the passions, the joys, the creativity we each carry. The dance, the music, the design, the beauty, the rest.

And beyond the blankets and the helpers and the transformation of the tent, Missy gave me something even more valuable — her unwavering presence. The support of a friend who truly gets you is invaluable. Her uplifting humor, her loving compassion, and the way she brings me back to my truth are gifts I’ll never take for granted.

This moment reminded me that leadership doesn’t always look like standing at the front of the room.

Sometimes it looks like serendipitous collaboration, like friendship, like generosity. Sometimes it looks like saying “hey, look” and helping someone see what’s possible.

Amy and Missy at the Rest Tent, Killam’s Point Ecstatic Dance in Connecticut

This is why I keep showing up for rest and community.

Because when we bring our gifts together — beauty, movement, music, rest — we create something bigger than ourselves. Something unforgettable.

This is what Nidra Babes is about:

nourishing those Kairos moments where we remember that together, we are whole. Events like REST Fest continue this vision — read more about it here.

Moments like this remind me that dance, rest and community go hand in hand — and that’s exactly what we’re creating with the Nidra Babes community.